Communication

Many sensitive, introvert and autism spectrum people feel very uncomfortable and confused in social situations they’re not 100% used to and at ease in. Some only talk with their closest family or friends (selective mutism).

Others get so nervous with other people that they blabber on too much instead and fail to grasp hints that the conversation may not be interesting the other party. The larger the group of people, the less one knows and feels accepted by them, or the more uncomfortable the situation, the bigger the risk of talking too little, too much, saying something ‘inappropriate’ out of sheer stress, or not getting said what one wanted to convey.

Some appear to have a form of verbal ADHD and just cannot stop talking.

Some have problems with reciprocity & timing and either talk on and on without letting anyone else get a word in edgewise, constantly interrupt others without realising that it’s disrespectful to do so, or say nothing at all unless asked a direct question. Often it is like one’s ‘talking software’ is either on or off. If it’s ‘on’ one can talk but not listen, if it’s ‘off’ one can listen & watch but not talk.

Some are so hyper-receptive that their nervous systems and brains take a longer time to process and decode all the incoming stimuli and thinking up an appropriate response.

“I have had trouble explaining myself and try not appear a retard by saying, look I can’t think, hear, see, and talk at the same time, I have to concentrate on one or the other, not that that even means I have processed what’s been said, shown. etc..”

Christine from UK

Right-brained visual thinkers may also need more time to convert words into pictures and back again (according to Donna Williams, not everyone on the autistic spectrum is a visual thinker, and about 60-65% of non-autistics also claim to be).

Others take extra time analysing what’s been said and/or thinking out an appropriate and linguistically correct reply. This creates problems with timing in live conversations.

“I have been mistaken for slow at times. Once when I went to talk to a school counselor about interview tips, she pointed out how when I am asked a question it sometimes takes me a few seconds before I start giving the answer. She said that some people may mistake that for being not too intelligent.  Interestingly, I just read a couple days ago that is fairly common for aspies/HFA to do.”

Ilah, probable Aspie and Highly Sensitive Person from USA

“I try to express myself as unequivocal as possible. Thus, my sentences may become rather wordy or take a long time to formulate, as I wish to express myself with as few words as possible. Clarity and brevity are often hard to combine in one single sentence. I also strongly prefer not to use the same word or expression too closely upon previous usage.”

‘Underjord’, male Aspie from Sweden

1 Comment »

  1. Jiriji said,

    Similar to Underjord from Sweden, I dislike using the same word more than once in any sentence. I also have to count each syllable in my head before speaking the words, to make sure they form even “patterns”.


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